The holiday season can bring up many stresses as well as conflicted emotions. Follow these tips to help keep you present and less stressed this holiday. For some people this is the favourite time of the year, for others, it is a time of stress and pressure with extra busy-ness. While it can be a time of great celebration and merry making there can also be some deep grieving, or the unearthing of childhood wounds and patterns triggered by family gatherings. Here are some suggestions to help navigate the next few weeks: 1. Do things in moderation. Plan what parties and functions that you really want to go to. You do not need to show up at them all. It is very easy to drink and eat too much at special events - so everything in moderation. If you know you are going for office drinks after work, order a healthy appetizer as well. As much as possible choose foods that are nourishing. If it is a late night gathering, eat your normal supper before going so that you can moderately eat the hors d’oeuvres. Also you do not need to be the last one to leave the party. Your body and spirit will thank you. 2. Keep to a regular routine. While this may seem odd to suggest when there are so many commitments and functions out there (work or family), it is very important to remember that routine is very grounding. If your routine includes a spiritual practice every morning, do not skip it. It will help set the tone for your day. If you have a regular workout time, honour it. It is very important to look after your self care. If you have a regular volunteer day, keep your schedule with it. Stick to your normal diet as much as you can. Go to sleep and wake at the same time as much as possible. Bodies like rhythm, honour your body. 3. Stay connected with the people who lift you up. You do not need to be alone nor do you need to be around people who are toxic to you. Make sure that you take the time to connect with the people who value you. These are earth angels. They will ground you. Remember to ask for support if you need it. 4. Eliminate the “should of” “need to”phrases. Also on the list to eliminate: I have to. This leads to unnecessary guilt. Remove those phrases from your vocabulary. You are a person with free will and choice. Do not place unrealistic expectations on yourself. A lot of our extra stresses are actually self imposed. If you feel obligated about doing certain things, ask yourself why? Then empower yourself to make a different choice and to take a different action. Try not to over analyze things, perhaps it is something as simple as having a date with yourself to do something that you really want to do, or something completely different. 5. Be with people if you tend to find yourself alone. (and don’t want to be) If you find that you are usually alone for the holiday, try to volunteer somewhere. There are many people who are alone - some because they want to be, but some because they are truly feeling alone and unable to change their situation. Volunteer in a facility for the elderly, or check out your local community centre or library for holiday programs. Sometimes you need to be outside of yourself in order to feel better about yourself. But more importantly, the opportunity to make a new friend or bring a smile to a neighbour is rewarding in itself and will do much to lift your spirits and self worth. You may discover a gift within yourself that you never knew that you had. Generally speaking take the time to be good to yourself. Do what feels good . Take the time for self care. Set your boundaries, you are allowed to say no when asked to do more than you can. Remember to ask for and accept help when you need it. Stay in the present moment. It is easier to see the beauty and gift of the experience if you are looking after yourself first. Try these suggestions and let me know how they work for you! If you have other ideas to share on what helps you please comment below.
The energies of full moon in January 2017 will bring forward qualities of the Cancer sign. While this is most beneficial for those who are born in this zodiacal sign, it can feel like an emotional roller coaster for those who are not. The Cancer sign at its best is ultimate feminine energy. Feminine energy as represented by the goddess Isis. An energy that is receptive, sensitive, imaginative, kind and highly intuitive. Feminine energy can be seen as the seed of unlimited potential just waiting for the masculine energy to spark the seed into full manifestation. It is the source of creativity. The potential of all that will rebirth. The language of a Cancer moon is expressed with “I Feel”. In this full moon, there will be a large push to “Feel”. The energy of this moon in Cancer can be intense and as such can greatly influence the uncovering of hard to look at emotions and truths. One can feel more vulnerable and exposed. Emotions and truths which have been deeply and darkly hidden, will seem to rise to the surface and be poked by those around you. Have courage, for the once emotions are honestly dealt with, the power of this full moon gives you tools to embrace truth which will allow you to accept, heal and rebirth. So how does one stay in balance when there is such powerful energy swirling about? Here are a few suggestions: Using essential oils such as those found in our vibrational healing products such as Courage (Horus) and Rebirth (Isis). Receiving body work such as Soundtouch therapy. Listening to some beautiful music while drawing, colouring or painting. Writing out a gratitude list and adding to it daily. Journaling. If you do not know how or where to start with a journal, start with “how do I feel today?” Explore the emotion. Then explore some of the roots to that emotion. Some prompting questions can be: have I had enough time with myself, with others, with family? What are my insecurities? What qualities do I have that make me like-able? What are the things that I like the least about myself that I can change? Have I been honest in my relationships? Am I being authentic? Do I need to forgive myself or others in order to move on? Comment below as how you work with your vulnerable side. Blessings from the Centred Being